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Why friendship is an erotic relationship

Drawing on such thinkers as Aristotle, Bonaventure, John Henry Newman, Christos Yannaras, and John Paul II, I argued for reimagining friendship as a necessarily erotic relationship.

This weekend, I presented a paper at the Fall Conference for the de Nicola Center for Ethics and Culture at the University of Notre Dame. My paper was titled, “Man, My Beloved: A Catholic Case for Falling in Love with Your Friends.” Drawing on such thinkers as Aristotle, Bonaventure, John Henry Newman, Christos Yannaras, and John Paul II, I argued for reimagining friendship as a necessarily erotic relationship. In today’s culture, conversations about love and eros have become almost entirely subsumed into the topics of sexuality and marriage. I hoped to give a renewed account of eros as that which draws man out of himself and gives birth in creativity, demonstrating the ways in which becoming friends really is a process of falling in love.

I ran short on time at the conference, so I had to cut down some of what I presented, but you can read the full paper here. Or you can listen to a recording from my talk below!


Chris Damian is a writer, speaker, attorney, and business professional living in the Twin Cities. He received his B.A. in Philosophy from the University of Notre Dame and his J.D. and M.A. in Catholic Studies from the University of St. Thomas. He is the author of “I Desired You: Intellectual Journals on Faith and (Homo)sexuality” (volumes I and II). He is also the co-founder of YArespond, a group of Catholic young adults seeking informed and holistic responses to the clergy abuse crisis. In his free time, he enjoys hosting dinner parties and creative writing workshops. 

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